What Did Jesus Say About Weddings?
Matthew 19:4-6 Jesus said, “Haven’t you read,” he replied, “that he who created them in the beginning made them male and female,” and He also said, “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two will become one flesh? So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore, what God has joined together, man must not separate.”
These are the words of Jesus Christ, God the Son, as he defines marriage and His expectations. Next to our relationship with God, our marriage is to be the most respected relationship we will ever have. It was not designed to be easy, effortless, or self-centered, but rather was a forever oath for one man and one woman to live together under God’s rule to raise a family that would also be under God’s rule. If this is not the plan for a marriage, it’s easy to get off to a rocky start.
OUR Biblical PREMARITAL COUNSELING SESSIONS
Add up the hours you are spending planning your wedding. Now, add up the hours you have spent planning your marriage. In Biblical Premarital Counseling, our goal is to help you help get you off on the right foot. We will be looking past the wedding to everyday life with your spouse and make sure that God is at the center of your union.
In the Biblical Premarital counseling sessions that we provide a soon-to-be bride and her fiancé will participate in six sessions each focused on a significant dynamic of marriage. All of these areas of concern will be discussed from a biblical standpoint.
Before we even start, the couple will be asked to fill out a pre-session questionnaire. This is where the current relationship and its beginnings will be discussed. I often see marriages begin for the wrong reasons. This is my first point of concern, is why the couple wants to get married. I find no value in sugarcoating the fact that a couple engaged for the wrong reasons should not marry and I have no problem in making this point known according to God’s word.
SESSION I: MARRIAGE MYTHS
There are many myths to marriage that give
people a distorted view of what a “forever together” relationship should look like. We will dive into myths such as the 50/50 Rule, Love and Passion, Love as a Cure-All, the idea of Changing your Potential Spouse after Marriage, and the Idea of Expectations.
SESSION II: MONEY
It’s not until we understand that our money, and our labor is not technically ours, but rather belongs to God. God, faith, and church are an important part to the beginning of every
couple’s manageable finances. We’ll start discussions about paying for the wedding, and will look at current debt of the couple individually, because these are soon going to become joint obligations.
SESSION III: LOVE AND LEADERSHIP
Most of us are very well aware of what the Bible says about leadership in our homes.
Does this mean that a wife is to be a slave to the husband so to honor him biblically? No! In this session we will discuss who is going to be responsible for what and how the final decisions will be made between the couple.
SESSION IV: THE BOUNDARIES
This session is very demanding of the
understanding of a biblical view of marriage. We will be discussing love,
honesty, faithfulness, compassion, forgiveness, was, and how to protect your
marriage from the outside.
SESSION V: CONFLICT RESOLUTION
In this session we will look at various techniques to resolve conflict within the marriage. We will dive into the art of negotiating, listening, and understanding. We will also look at a specific situation and the differences between a selfish resolution and a marriage resolution.
SESSION VI: OUR FOREVER FUTURE
This is a session that will bring all of our
previous sessions together as we look forward to putting our learning into action. By this time we will have created a roadmap that has answered many questions, and given direction to the couple to start out in a godly marriage.
The terms together and forever are going to be stressed in this section extensively. The Bible gives us very few reasons for divorce and to a couple that is living fully with in his plan for marriage there is never a time when
divorce is an option.
Questions & Answers
How Much Does Premarital Counseling Cost?
There are three levels to our rate plan for counseling services to make counseling affordable. Most of our sessions come in packages of six-to-eight one-hour meetings and your quoted rate is all-inclusive. If you are seeking a one-time conversation an affordable rate will be awarded. If more than six to eight sessions are needed, a rate no higher than your original will apply.